Let everything you do be done in love [motivated and inspired by God’s love for us]. 1 Corinthians 16:14, Amplified Bible.
In living for God, we are pressing toward a mark. We are not perfect, but we are striving after the perfection that is in Jesus Christ. Jesus is the center of the mark. Everything we do, in marriage and out of marriage has to measure against Him. I can’t emphasize this enough, because if we don’t get Jesus right, then nothing else will be in line.
His spirit has to be at the center of our relationships, and the married couple must always strive after that, that He will lead each one in their role. This is why obedience is a consensual matter and not forced. Jesus said, “Follow me.” He didn’t try to force himself on his followers. His presence was so compelling, his love so profound that people just naturally followed Him. Yes, He has all authority, and one day, every knee will bow, but He prefers that they come willingly to Him at this point.
Jesus makes people whole. The power of His love for us heals us, it frees us, it makes us want to follow Him. And when we do, He gives us all. Without the power of God’s love at the center of a marriage relationship, obedience becomes abusive, and those that would force obedience on women and degrade her miss the mark. If I may, I might say that Jesus did not come to degrade women and force them into a relationship of control and abuse. The spirit of Christ is not one of condemnation, but salvific and redemptive.
I was thinking today of the whole Garden scenario and realized that God put man over woman for HER PROTECTION. Eve listened to the serpent who deceived her into disobedience of God. Although Adam did as well, he was not deceived. He knew what he was doing. God’s command to the man and woman then gave them opportunity. The man was placed over the woman because she was deceived and he was not. Man has the opportunity to make it right by protecting her from deception and spiritually leading her, setting the example for their family. Woman is redeemed through obedience to her husband which gives her the opportunity to glorify him.
Pamela Parizo © 2017