In today’s world, submission to a man is repugnant. Women HATE it. They want control over their own destinies, their own minds, their own way in the world. The idea that they need a man to tell them what to do is so foreign to their thinking, women who do so are looked upon as wierd, weak, freakish.
I once had a conversation with a friend on whether obedience or submission came first. I believe obedience comes first, as that is a heart change, where submission is the actual act of yielding to the person or thing you choose to obey. In any case, yes, Godly women should submit to their husbands, be in subjection to, subordinate themselves to the needs of their husbands.
What this means is, I agree with an article I saw that says it takes a strong woman, not a weak one, to submit. We have to have tremendous self-control in order to yield ourselves to the man. This means, honor and respect your husband–do not dishonor him through criticism, nagging, contention or quarrel. This means we should esteem him more than ourselves, placing his needs before ours, ordering our lives around him.
What it doesn’t mean is that we don’t have thoughts, opinions, feelings of our own or that we have nothing to say about our lives or that we should be silent. Like a strong helpmeet, we should support him in all he does, and share his vision for our lives. We offer our own opinions on things, but should always honor his decisions. It also does not mean we are doormats to suffer abuse. This is one of the largest accusations against womanly submission is that we have to suffer abuse. Never let your husband abuse you and if that is the case, seek outside counsel, and reject counsel that says you have to suffer the abuse.
Submission is a natural response in a Christian; we are admonished to submit ourselves one to another (Ephesians 5:21). Moses was called the most meek (most submissive) man on earth (Numbers 12:3), in that he submitted himself totally to God. Bear in mind, that the husband is underneath the authority of Jesus Christ and is accountable to Him.
Do let your husband know you reverence him and look upon him as being the head of your family (Ephesians 5:33).
Do learn to have a submissive and quiet spirit, which is esteemed by God (1 Peter 3:4).
Do everything you can to please your husband in the home, in your personality.
Don’t dishonor, disrespect him, hold bitterness or anger toward him. Look up to him, and make him your hero.
Do let him lead you materially and spiritually.
Pamela Parizo © 2017