Commitment

I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine: he feedeth among the lilies.                              Song of Solomon 6:3

This morning, I was thinking about the bond between a man and wife.  In my parents’ time, most people stayed committed for life.  They considered the marriage bond largely insoluble, though there were occasionally divorces, typically for abuse or abandonment.  The Bible tells us that when a man and a woman are intimate (not just in the case of marriage), they become one flesh, and there is a definite physical bond between them.

In considering this, it becomes apparent that there is a mutual belonging between a couple.   When one looks at it that way, it’s possible to be committed to the relationship. Divorce should be so foreign an idea to a couple that they sense they must work it out.   When unity is continually a goal, which it is in a submitted relationship, it becomes easier to see your spouse as belonging to you and a part of yourself.  I’m not saying this is 100% perfect, but the sense of belonging should definitely be fostered.

Getting back to the couple as a portrayal of Christ and the Church, we can recall the lines of Paul, who said “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ?”  Romans 8:35.  If we extend this back to the couple and their commitment toward each other and to Jesus Christ, they should ask each other, “Who shall separate us from our love for each other?”