Beloved, when I gave all diligence to write unto you of the common salvation, it was needful for me to write unto you, and exhort you that ye should earnestly contend for the faith which was once delivered unto the saints. For there are certain men crept in unawares, who were before of old ordained to this condemnation, ungodly men, turning the grace of our God into lasciviousness, and denying the only Lord God, and our Lord Jesus Christ. Jude 3-4
This post could be called Battle of the Sexes, Part II. As Christian women, we know what Feminism has done to women. It’s destroyed their femininity, it has polluted the relationships between men and women, it has utterly thrown down the roles that men and women are supposed to perform as followers of Jesus Christ, to where marital submission is seen as oppressive. By seeking to “equalize” and “liberate” women, it has instead put a terrible burden on her. Women today are severely burdened by the often conflicting roles of housewife, career woman and mother. Mom’s at work; kids are at daycare, and dad, if he isn’t at home keeping house, is also trying to make it in the workplace, so that when both come home, there is often a battle over who does the housework.
As backlash, there is now a men’s movement, that, in an effort to promote masculinity and dominance, is not only anti-Feminist, it is anti-woman. The men’s movement sees Feminism as a way to control men, and so the men’s movement seeks to remove that control by portraying all women as playing games with men, and finding ways to subjugate them materially and—sexually. It is highly misogynistic and plays on fear. One prominent writer in this field promotes keeping women in fear and uncertainty to keep women under control.
It is extremely important that as Christians, we not allow either of these philosophies to pervade the Church. Neither one is Christian, neither of these extremes is helpful in establishing sound relationships between men and women. Women, especially, need to be aware that these “alpha males” are targetting Christian women for dating. Churches, also, that preach a lifetime subjugation of women through something called the Patriarchy are also, not Christian. They are generally abusive in nature (one sect, the Independent Fundamentalist Baptists, has been scandalized by abuse charges in recent years).
Men and women are both made in the image of God, but we both have different roles as defined by the Bible. These secular movements use Christianity to promote their separate agendas for control and are not based in the Spirit of Christ, in the agape love He calls us to. They seek to tear apart good, Spirit-oriented marriages, as well as bring in damnable philosophies that have nothing to do with God’s nature.
Feminism is based in socialism, which is atheistic. It is anti-male, it seeks to destroy marriage, to destroy submission as a sound biblical principle, and to put women in control, which is contrary to model of Jesus Christ as the loving husband, and the Church as the obedient wife. Sadly, there are many Christian women today who unwittingly give in to it.
The men’s movement is anti-female, and seeks to destroy women through subjugation and loveless marriages. They deny the principles of agape love and instead promote a marriage based on what I would call Roman virtues. They see affection as un-masculine, they see marriage as solely for the husband’s benefit and pleasure, they promote a more violent man. They promote the physique over spirituality, they promote the erotic over agape, they allow for abusive behavior toward wives and women in general. They think women should live in fear of men. One “Christian blogger” I know of thinks that women should actually be afraid of their husbands (see my post Perfect love casts out all fear). This ought not to be in any church that professes the love of Jesus Christ.
Christians need to promote true femininity and true masculinity as defined by the Bible. God did not create us to hate one another, but to love one another, in true holiness and righteousness. As a song once said, “We need to get back to the basics of life.” The writer Jude spoke of contending for the faith–our faith is grounded in the Spirit of Jesus Christ, in agape love, in sound biblical living. Reject secular culture and philosophies that are contrary to sound doctrine, and above all, let us seek after and walk in the Spirit.