Feminism vs. femininity

Feminism has been an ongoing movement since at least the mid-1800s when the first Women’s Rights Convention was held in Seneca Falls in 1848.  It picked up some momentum in the 1920s as women won the right to vote and the Jazz Era brought in “the modern woman” who was seeking to liberate herself from the constraints of marriage and motherhood.  But the 1970s forwarded Feminism with a fury.  I say fury because the anthem was, “I am woman, hear me roar”.

As earlier discussed since the Fall of Man there has been a power struggle between woman and man for leadership.  This is known familiarly as The Battle of the Sexes.   Women have chaffed at the leadership of men because when they tasted the fruit, they desired to make decisions independently of a male authority.   Indeed, now that several generations have experienced “liberation”, it is abhorrent to most women to think of submitting themselves to a male authority, especially a husband who is a daily part of their lives.

Feminists would have us believe that we can and should live our lives searching for careers and leaving our families behind.  Indeed, a woman who is a homemaker in these times is looked on with disdain and ridicule.   Their agenda though, is to destroy not only the gender roles that God defined, but to destroy the family.

Women need to realize that although we are equal in salvation to a man, God created us differently.  We were taken out of man, and have different biology, different ways of thinking, a different emotional level and a different role in life.  Women’s bodies are by and large formed for fertility, for being a wife and a mother.  We have breasts and wider hips than a man with which to mother a child.  These distinct attributes make us attractive to men as well, so that God’s admonition to be fruitful and replenish the earth is fulfilled.

We think differently than men: we have a greater capacity for language, we have a greater recognition of color, we are relational in our thinking rather than action-oriented, and we can transition between tasks more easily than men.  Women are great multi-taskers, and no wonder, for we must balance the many roles involved in caring for our families, our households.   How many times has it been said that a mother is a chauffeur, a maid, a cook, a nanny, etc, etc.   God has given us the ability as women to wear all these hats well.  We are good at relationships, and empathizing with others, so that we are able to help our families.

Women are a weaker vessel in that we are more sensitive to negative emotions and have a greater capacity to empathize with others.  We can feel what others feel.   This probably ties in with our relationship abilities, being able to see how things relate.

God initially created woman to be a companion and support to the man, and to help him reproduce.  After the fall, two things happened: woman was no longer content to be a support, and she would experience pain through being a mother.  However, God gave man rule over her.  Not to penalize her, but for her protection.

Men are stronger physically, and are able to physically protect women.  But also, God gave dominion to man, and by giving man leadership of women, it relieves woman of the burden of leadership and allows her to focus on the things she is superior at.

God defines woman’s role in both the Old and New Testament as a keeper of the home.  She is primarily suited to be a wife and mother.  Single woman can be supportive of others.  Wives are to be a companion and support to husbands, and to submit to their leadership.  Further, wives are a tremendous spiritual support for their husbands in the area of prayer.

In terms of achieving femininity then, rather than feminism, women should embrace their supporting role, enhance their beauty and the beauty of their homes to please their husbands, support strong relationships in those around them and help others emotionally through their strong empathy.

They should serve their husbands and family as much as possible, taking care of their needs and creating a nice home to live.  They should take care of their physical attributes to be appealing to their husbands, and do everything they can to promote a strong intimate relationship with them.  God intended sexual intimacy for both the man and the woman, and women need to embrace it as a gift from God.

God gave women a strong capacity for social relationships, and so part of their femininity is encouraging strong relationships around them and being a support to people, though putting their husbands and children first.

Being a godly woman is a beautiful thing, and women have a strong capacity for showing love.  We need to reject feminism strongly and embrace the femininity that God has given us.

The attributes of a godly woman:

  • Submissive to her husband, bringing glory to him (Ephesians 5:22, Colossians 1:18, 1 Peter 3:1, 1 Corinthians 11:7)
  • Godly example to her children and full of charity (1 Timothy 2:15)
  • Teaches younger women to love their husbands (Titus 2:4)
  • Prayerful (Acts 1:14)
  • Fears and worships God (Psalms 31:30)

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