Some comments on abuse of men

Abuse of men does exist.  I know cases of it.  However, it’s unusual that the Bible never recognizes these circumstances.  Why is that?  While it does discuss the seduction of a man, it never calls a woman a rapist.  That is because the of the physical difficulty of a woman forcing a man to have sex.  It’s much easier for a man, who is of superior strength naturally to force a woman.   A woman could force a younger man who is weaker, and in those cases they should face not only the full extent of the law, but harsh societal condemnation, particularly, if they are in a position of trust and authority, such as a teacher.

With that said, the overwhelming statistics show that women are at far greater risk than men:  This is because women are more vulnerable than men, and this is biblical.  One sees throughout the pages of the Bible that women are far more likely to suffer violence from men than the opposite.


Should we view all men as oppressors and rapists?  God forbid.  To do so is to demonize men, which should not be.   However, I have very much against any viewpoint that tries to blame rape on the victim, to blame domestic violence and abuse on the victim.   The only time one sees in the Bible where victims are blamed is if they could’ve called for help and chose not to, in which case they were complicit in their own victimization. Comparable would be the woman who deliberately places herself in a dangerous situation.  Yet this in no way diminishes the crime of rape.

One other comment I want to make about men as victims is that where a man who has been abused would not be seen as permanently damaged in relation to their purity, a woman would.  A female victim of rape or other sexual abuse faces the additional factor of societal stigma of being damaged in her purity.    The man may suffer loss of masculine pride, loss of ego, but it would be rare for them to be viewed as unmarriageable.   It’s important within a Christian community that hope and compassion be offered to those who suffer these things,  and that the Christian community offer additional hope to men who suffer violence and abuse.

We must always remember that whatever brothers and sisters have suffered, Christ heals all wounds and that we are new creatures in Him.  The Spirit always offers life and hope.

Pamela Parizo © 2017


      1. @pamelaparizo

        Lol…..I’m going through so many different blogs here in WordPress, that I’ve lost track of where exactly I’m posting

        I was pretty sure that I made at least 1 comment in here, addressing that women can rape men as well as vice versa…..perhaps it’s in your spam box?

        If I didn’t , my apologies Pam

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        1. It may have been on the other post. I wrote one about domestic abuse and one about the abuse of men. I think you posted it on the domestic abuse, and I will look. I appreciate your thoughts. I’ll take a look in my spam box. I definitely welcome comments and do not want any going there.


      2. Yeah I think my comments are going straight to your spam box…..I noticed as soon as I hit enter to send that last comment, it instantly disappears
        This tells me, that you don’t accept comments on your blog straight away, it’s going through your filters
        You will have to change your settings to allow me to post in future

        It’s very disconcerting to write a wall of text, not knowing if it’s going to be posted or not….as soon as you approve my comments, they won’t end up in your spam folder, and my comments will show up in this blog here straight away




        1. I’ve done that before. I will take a look at my settings. I hope you will take a look at my most recent post and provide your thoughts. I think there is a lot of misunderstanding between men and women that can be clarified if we are willing to listen to reasonable discourse.


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