In Genesis chapter 24, Abraham knows he is getting old and going to die soon, so he plans for his son’s future. He wants a wife for him, but not just any woman will do. We see that in verses 2-5, he wants his son to marry a woman of their own people, which is a type of the Church:
And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh: And I will make thee swear by the Lord, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell: But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac.
The servant goes to Haran, where Abraham’s brother Nahor lives. But he doesn’t know where to look for Isaac a wife, so he prays, a very specific prayer in verses 12-14:
And he said O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham. Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water: And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.
The servant did some things to seek God’s will for Isaac:
- He prayed to God
- He went to the place where one would typically find the type of woman Abraham was seeking
- He sought a sign from God that would tell him who the woman was God intended
This is what I was taught, that we should pray to God to send us the person God intends for us to marry. That we place ourselves where God would send that person, and lastly that we would seek a sign that would tell us without a doubt we had the right person.
The servant’s prayer was specific, and so should our prayer be. We need to be specific to God about what type of person we are seeking, while bearing in mind that God knows more than we do what we need. Our focus should be on obtaining the person who best exemplifies the qualities of a Christian husband or wife, that meets what is appropriate for us (age, temperament, etc), and who would help us to fulfill God’s will for our lives. Some people pray about the person’s looks and while I am not against that, I think our focus should be on the person’s character and temperament.
The servant went to the well looking for her. The well of water is the Holy Ghost, and so first and foremost, we would search for someone who is at that well of water, a spiritually-minded person who prays, praises God, is based in His word and is kingdom-minded.
Lastly, the servant prayed for a sign. How are you going to know that person was sent for you unless you look for a sign from God? The servant wanted to hear specific words spoken that would tell him which girl was the right one.
When I consider the type of sign we are looking for, I would say it’s good to look for a sign that is only known to you and God for 100% certainty. It should be something that would come out of the character of the person you are looking for, something they might naturally speak. Go back to the qualities you are looking for, and consider, what would this person say if they came to you? Obviously a Christian person is not going to say something inappropriate, unseemly.
I would encourage those looking for a spouse to consider this method, as it leads you to the very person God wants for you!
For the most part, young people and those seeking a spouse in my church would involve themselves as much as possible in group fellowship in order to make oneself open to encountering a spouse.
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