Two girls for every boy…
You know we’re goin’ to Surf City, ’cause it’s two to one
You know we’re goin’ to Surf City, gonna have some fun, now
Two girls for every boy
(Jan & Dean, Surf City, 1963)
Many men’s rights advocates like to say that man is inherently polygamous, that desire for more than one female is natural to him, and that women should not suppress their husband’s desire to look at other women or even want more than one.
But is that true?
If God wanted man to be polygamous, wouldn’t He have given Adam more than one helpmate?
Wouldn’t a man having more than one mate greater fulfill God’s purpose of multiplying and replenishing the earth?
Wouldn’t polygamy solve the problems of a slightly greater ratio of available females for every male?
The answers to all of these questions is no. Polygamy is not the ideal, Godly state of man. I say Godly because as Christians, we are to focus on the spiritual, rather the natural state of man. Man’s nature ultimately leads to depravity.
God did not give Adam more than one help because one man and one woman was God’s ideal from the start. He allows polygamy but it is not His ideal, and ultimately it is problematic. Polygamists throughout the Bible had woman-trouble.
God certainly knew what it would take to replenish the Earth, so to say polygamy would’ve helped that along is to say God didn’t plan well in His creation. Not only that, but when He had to start again from scratch (the Flood), He still maintained this model, since Noah and his three sons each had one wife.
God’s model still works in the imbalance of male-female ratio when one allows for deaths and other tragedies.
God did allow it–there were some men in the Bible who either willingly or unwillingly practiced it. There is a though that He allowed it to compensate for men taking captives in war (these women were treated as wives generally), or when they took their brother’s wife under the Levirate Law or even, as promoted by Jacob’s wives, to solve the problem of infertility. Solomon multiplied wives greatly, and they turned him away from God.
So, although polygamy was allowed, it is not for every culture, and it is certainly not God’s ideal.
Pamela Parizo © 2017