When the righteous are in authority, the people rejoice: but when the wicked beareth rule, the people mourn. Proverbs 29:2
One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; 1 Timothy 3:4
God is the King of the Universe. Monarcy, sovereignty is a godly principle. However, there are wicked rulers, men (and some women) who use their power for evil rather than good.
God did intend that man should be the king of his castle, the head of his family, and that he should keep his family under control. However, since man is human, and subject to sin, he has to effectively control himself in order to rule well, and to bring himself under subjection to Jesus Christ.
While God intended that a woman submit herself to her husband, this is not meant to give a man free reign over how to behave with his wife. Firstly, his wife is not a slave. God never indicates that a wife is to be treated like one. A wife is due honor. Honor means “high respect and esteem”. To degrade one’s wife, who is after all, a man’s flesh and blood, is to degrade himself.
God set certain obligations on a man with respect to his wife. He owes her his protection; he owes her his provision; and he owes her his sexuality. To withhold sex from his wife is defrauding her.
He is also to treat her well. Ephesians 5 indicates that he should love her as Jesus loved the Church. That means, he is not to abuse her, or treat her in any ill-manner. A man should consider whether his treatment of his wife is how Jesus would behave to HIs bride. Ephesians emphasizes that they are one flesh, and that her flesh is his flesh, to be nourished and cherished. To abuse his wife’s body is to abuse his own, and a man who does so has a darkened mind without understanding. This includes how he behaves himself sexually toward her, which is the most intimate act a man could perform toward his wife. This would also include objectifying her or treating her in a degrading manner.
God gave woman to man to care for and protect. A man has considerable power over her, but he should consider that God will hold him accountable for treatment of a wife.
Pamela Parizo © 2017