And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. John 3:19
The book of Proverbs is all about wisdom; in some ways, the book of John takes this wisdom and brings it to a higher level, which is the Light. John dwells a lot, especially in the earlier chapters on how men hate the Light. The Light was brought into the world, and God wanted all men to come to the Light which is Jesus Christ. But men couldn’t comprehend the Light that He offered–John says, the darkness comprehended it not. In chapter 3, he expounds on this to say why–men love darkness because their deeds were evil.
My former pastor used to emphasize that evil deeds take place in darkness. Go anywhere in the world, and when men do evil, they cover it with darkness so that their deeds will not be seen. Evil places are dark or dim; bars, red light districts, etc. Dark, lurking places where men go.
Sometimes this darkness is within their own hearts. Sometimes this darkness comes out of our personal experiences. Evil is committed against us, so that we look at things through the lens of our bitterness, our anger. We rage against what is done to us, and then condemn the good with the evil. Consider for example a woman or man who is sexually assaulted by a black person, and then condemns all black people because of what was done to them.
Feminism has created a condition for this. Men have suffered greatly under the weight of feminism. The legal system has ripped families apart so that women can now obtain a man’s livelihood through child support without allowing him the benefits of his family, a loving wife and children who honor and respect him. This also impacts children greatly because they have to grow up without a father.
Sadly, this has created such a bitterness and anger from men that they turn it upon all women. There is a saying among men’s groups that “all women are like that” without understanding God’s design. They take a little bit of truth and it gets twisted so that good women are condemned along with the bad.
God ordained for men to provide for women their essential material needs. Part of the wedding vow for men use to be “and thee all of my worldly goods I do endow”. However, because of feminism and the desire to take from men all that they can get (with no help from Marilyn or Madonna’s “Material Girl”), suddenly, even godly women seeking man’s provision are turned into opportunists and narcissists in the minds of angry men and the cynical philosophers who feed them poisoned fruit.
God put an innate desire in women for stability and security for their family unit. They are homemakers, mothers, wives, and so God gave us the trait that we want that to be stable and secure. Families are the structure of a stable society. There is nothing wrong with that design. But a little truth is a dangerous thing. In terms of “all women are like that”, all women do want stability and security, but not all women want to separate men from their families. Not all women are looking for something better than what they have. Some women are content and happy with what God has provided them with, and can appreciate and love the men God puts in their lives to take care of them. Godly women want godly families with godly men to lead them.
Pamela Parizo © 2017