So David and his men came to the city, and, behold, it was burned with fire; and their wives, and their sons, and their daughters, were taken captives. 1 Samuel 30:3
God gives men families. A wife and children are a blessing to a man and given man’s superior strength and role as head of his family, a man is obligated to defend his family both as a practical reality and spiritually. Man is the priest of his family, and is the spiritual warrior for his wife and children, to pray over them, bless them, and war in the spirit for them. Adam failed in this respect in the Garden in that he did not defend his wife against spiritual attack from Satan.
Practically, a man should place himself between his family and danger. Although Christians are often thought of as pacifists, I believe God expects a man to defend his home and his family. In the verse above, David’s family is taken captive by the Amalekites and he goes and takes them back. Jesus also uses the parable of the strong man–anyone wanting to break into a man’s house has to bind him first.
Women desire safety and security; this we discussed in part one. Part of that safety entails knowing that her husband will protect her and his children, so that a godly husband should ensure that he is able to defend her. And on a more profound level, a man’s family is his own flesh and blood, including his wife who becomes one flesh with him through marriage. As parting of loving his family, nourishing and cherishing his wife, defense of her is important to fulfilling his role.
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