And what more can I tell you?

And she said, I will surely go with thee: notwithstanding the journey that thou takest shall not be for thine honour; for the Lord shall sell Sisera into the hand of a woman. And Deborah arose, and went with Barak to Kedesh.–Judges 4:9

I want to tell you of some women.  Women of strength.  Women of honor.    I will never deny that women have a special struggle that they go through because of Eve.  Thanks, lady.  I will never deny that we are under authority.  Notwithstanding, there are women that God used in a special way.

Deborah was the only woman that judged Israel.  Judges were used in different ways.  Barak the military leader said he wouldn’t go out against the enemy unless Deborah went with him.

Miriam, the sister of Moses was a prophetess; Huldah was also a prophetess, and the High Priest of the Temple came to consult her.  This is a man who had been in the presence of the Shekinah glory.

Esther was a poor little orphan girl that God raised up to marry a pagan king, Xerxes of Persia in order to save Israel.

Ruth was a Moabitess, a stranger, a foreignor to God’s people.  But God brought her from a far land, a hated land, to be the wife of Boaz and become the great-grandmother of King David, and an ancestress of Jesus Christ.   Ruth actually came to Boaz and proposed that he marry her by lying at his feet.

Jael was the wife of a man called Heber the Kenite.   The Kenites were not of Israel, yet God sold the enemy of Israel, Sisera into her hands, rather than into Barak’s.   A woman was bold enough to kill the enemy.

Tamar was the daughter-in-law of Judah, son of Israel.  She was widowed twice.  I know it seems strange to our modern ears, but when Judah would not marry her to his third son, she pretended to be a harlot so that Judah would sleep with her and she conceived.  He thought something was wrong with her, but she proved the problem was not hers.

Through her came the descendants of Judah, one of them being Salmon.  Salmon married a harlot named Rahab who with strength and honor hid the spies of Israel and saved her family.   Her son was Boaz, who became the leader in Bethlehem (see above) who married Ruth the Moabitess.

These women mostly defied what we think of as traditional womanhood.   If the patriarchs of today, others with a rigid view of womanhood, had been around, these women probably would not have been able to step out and obey God’s purpose for their lives.

The New Testament also shows us women who obeyed God.  Mary the mother of Jesus was betrothed at the time God chose her to have His Son.  Now, you know there must of been things said about her.   Joseph, her betrothed wanted to put her away until God had a little talk with him.

Not every woman around Jesus had a savory background, a righteous past.  The woman at the well who had had five husbands.  Mary of Bethany who anointed the feet of Jesus….there was something in her past, because the other account says she was a woman of bad reputation.   The woman caught in adultery.

Even if we look at the good women, they were doing things that were outside the box in order to help the apostles, the men of God further this Gospel.  And that’s what we have to do sometimes, is look outside the box in order to obey God.

I’m totally against feminism, and all for submission.  But I also believe wholeheartedly that God can and does use women.   I know men that would rather tell a woman to sit down and shut up or make them a sandwich because they don’t believe this.  Unfortunately, feminism and the manosphere have hurt women because neither side sees the value in godly women doing good works.  Before you tell that woman to shut up, you may consider whether God is using her to tell you something.

Pamela Parizo © 2017




  1. Amen, Pam. Well done. I get a bit edgy about some of this stuff, people acting as if some kind of “curse of Eve” was bigger and badder than Christ’s sacrifice for us all. That’s crazy and wrong headed.

    LOL, I’m also all for submission, and making sandwiches too, and guys can always go first, especially if the path ahead is dark and scary. Just the same, a lot of this stuff around biblical womanhood is just well, not biblical.

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    1. Amen. The thing about Eve is its human nature. Although the language is the same, it’s different than the Cain-Abel thing. Women like to organize. It’s just the way we are. I liked what you said about the woman treating the man as an extra child, and I think there’s a lot of truth in that. She’s so used to organizing her home, that she tries to change and organize him, too. Just as man has trouble with self-control, and a lack of leadership. BUT, thanks be to God that we can overcome our HUMAN nature with the power of Jesus. And I can make a pretty good sandwich, too, LOL, but a lot of times when I’ve spoken to the manosphere, that’s all I hear.

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      1. The struggle to control is our human nature. I don’t believe in evolution, but I do believe man and woman have distinct biologies, and distinct ways of thinking. Women like to organize their world, and that can be a failing when we try to organize the men in our lives. However, man is not off the hook. Men lack self-control. They fail to lead. So, where do we go to fix all this? The Cross. The Spirit of God. It’s through the power of God’s spirit that we overcome this. We can do all things through Jesus, and His Spirit is definitely more powerful than anything.

        That’s my primary argument against the manosphere, is they think AWALT without ascribing any power to the Spirit to change. They seem to feel the only way women can overcome their opportunistic, dishonest, narcissistic ways is for man to overpower them. Really? No power in Jesus? That’s why they don’t understand agape love. Their construct is completely carnal.


    2. IB, I am a big believer in grace and love, give and take. I believe in gender roles; I believe God wants women to be feminine and men masculine. With that said, do you really think Jesus is going to think a man is blowing it if he helps his wife do the dishes? The bottom line is love, and what it can accomplish. Isn’t that what He said? If we have all spiritual gifts and we have not love, where does that leave us?

      The important thing that I think we miss, and this is what the Jon and Kate thing spotlighted is that we need to see how important we are to each other. If Mom isn’t there for her kids because she’s depressed and self-focused, how does that impact her children? If Dad doesn’t understand Mom’s depression and shows her loving tenderness, how does that impact their marriage? If she is so depressed she can’t see how much her husband needs her, then it likewise impacts their relationship. So submission, rather than being a BLESSING, becomes a BURDEN. Our manosphere friends can only think of control and domination, rather than the glorious thing marriage is intended to be. They miss out on the value that women can really bring to them.

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