Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.–Proverbs 18:22\
In the very beginning of our time here on earth, God said, it is not good for man to dwell alone. I will create a help meet for him. We often corrupt this phrase into “helpmate” but it is actually saying I will create a help that is suitable for him (such as in works meet for repentance). God immediately recognized that Adam needed a help. That He also intended companionship is evident in the admonition to be fruitful and multiply, but we should not get away from the purpose of help. Woman is intended to be a help, an aid, and a support to man (Strong’s definition, based on the root “to help”). A wife should be her husband’s first line of support, both spiritually and materially. A man who excludes his wife from his primary endeavours is cutting off his closest support. The apostles regularly took their wives with them where they went. (1 Corinthians 9:5).
Naturally, a woman’s role is to care for the household and take care of her children. These things are explained throughout the scriptures, and held up as examples of godly womanhood, rightly so.
She provides her husband with love and affection, both physically and emotionally. The Song of Solomon reflects a relationship that is both full of passionate love as well a tender affections. Solomon calls the woman “my sister” indicating a closeness and familiarity, and calls her “my dove”, extolling her gentle nature. She made his heart glad, and in chapter 5, he calls her “my love”. The word used for my love is “rayah” meaning female friend from the word for friend or companion. So his love for her is not strictly physical. Indeed, this is echoed by the woman in verse 16 where she calls him “my friend”, again using the word “rayah”. Finally, I want to remark on the verse that says, “Set me as a seal upon thy heart.” This is saying that the woman is a stamp, a mark on Solomon’s heart. The seal is the signet that signifies a mark of identity, ownership. She is saying, your heart belongs to me. This, for a man who has 1000 women.
A woman’s spirituality is important to her husband as well. Proverbs 31 indicates that a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Abigail provided for David, even against the wishes of her husband, because she feared God. A woman’s godly behavior, particularly her recognition of him as her head, glorifies her husband (1 Corinthians 11, Ephesians 5).
Lastly, I want to say that women are equally important to God as men are. The Bible says we are all one in Christ. It says that we are co-heirs of salvation. Though God does have a hierarchy and a specific role for women, we are not 2nd class citizens in the kingdom of God. Angels first appeared to a woman.
Although the Bible does say much about women who are not happy in marriage, there is also much to be said about godly women who build their house, make their husbands happy, fear God and contribute to the Church and the work of God.
Pamela Parizo © 2017